Staying in contact

As time goes by and as we grow older, it seems that we lose touch with the people we care about. The once upon-a-time close friends become distant memories & family members drift away into their own lives. The further you go when you lose touch, the harder it seems to get back into contact with the ones you care about and sometimes it can even be nearly impossible.
So the question is how can you improve your ways of staying in contact with those you care about?

LETTERS - The time of writing letters is so old-school but yet it can be something really special to receive a written letter via post. In recent days typing a letter is soo much faster, while it may not be as personal as handwritten one, it’s certainly better than not writing at all.

TECHNOLOGY - With the recent technology to our avail, its so much easier to stay in contact even with friends or family that’s hundreds or thousands of kilometres away. Various tools make it easy and inexpensive to send frequent communication.

To stay in contact should not be a burden, make it a habit to stay in contact. Some people find this tedious because they feel nervous or don’t know where to where to start. Make time frequently and devote to stay in contact. A simple message to say “hello” or “how are you” can mean a lot. Don’t make excuses for not being in contact as the same rules applies to the other party.

Always remember the importance of staying in touch with the people you care about.

Try not to get so wrapped up in your daily lives, jobs and other responsibilities that you forget parents, siblings, close friends and other people that are important to you.

Reference given to: http://voices.yahoo.com

Being independent

INDEPENDENCE - a word that has different meaning to different people.

It all depend on your circumstance example:

To a physically challenged person, independence mean being able to look after yourself without having to rely on someone else helping you to get dressed or bathed etc.

To a teenager, independence might mean being able to get your driver license, buy your own car and live in your own apartment or simply just buying stuff for yourself.

So many other examples can be given, and if you were ME, independence would mean not wanting to rely on anyone else for financial security or making me happy.

Being independent is an important for people who want to take control of their lives and feel like they don't need others to accomplish their goals. Being more independent will give you the freedom to do what you want without caring what others think. It will also lead you to find some original solutions to your problems. In addition to all this being said, studies show that the more independent a person is, the happier he/she feels...

Sharing my story where I started from a very young age creating my independence:

Back in Primary School, in Sub B (today, Gr 2) I used to sell blank white pages at school for 5c or 10c. Silly idea, but the profit was more than enough to cover my daily sweets and treats expenditure.

 

At the age of 10 I started to help an old lady with her gardening and she was more than generous to pay me for my efforts - this money I used to buy energy drinks for Cross Country races.

 

At 16, (barely legal) I started a part-time work as a waitress at a Golf Club. This where I learnt to work with money and saving for my goals, no matter how big or small.. 

 

To my mother this meant that I did not have to bug her for my small expenditures; to me it was a learning experience which at the time did not make as much sense as it does today.

 

By sharing these personal experiences, I simply wanted to illustrate that the journey to being independent has no age restriction or time when it should start. Our decisions throughout your life are building blocks towards this - Being Independent.

 

A few tips to start a journey on being independent (whatever independence might mean to you)

 

1. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF - If you don't believe in yourself then who else will?

2. ACCEPT YOURSELF - Accept your body, personality, your opinions, choices, preferences, and most importantly your life story.

3. ACCEPT THE WORLD - Independent people are those who see the world, with its good and its bad, and consciously choose to be strong for themselves and others.

4. BE EMOTIONALLY INDEPENDENT - It's 'ok' to get attached to a few key people in your life, but you cannot let these people determine your level of happiness.  The only person that will always be with you is you. If you depend on yourself for support, you will never be let down.

5. BE SELF-MOTIVATED - Other people do not have and will never have the same vested interest in your success.

6. ACCEPT THAT LIFE IS NOT FAIR - Don't let the unfairness of the world keep you from doing what you want to do.

7. STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK - This is the most important thing about being independent.

 

Start TODAY with your journey to become independent!

Whether it is to:

 To get own car/apartment - start saving TODAY

or

 To be happy - make that decision TODAY and get rid of everything that keeps you from happiness.

 

Be accountable for yourself, take responsibility for your life and ultimately that's how you build a better and better life for yourself. Only YOU can get you to where you want to be.