When you want what you can't have

Most of us have experienced a burning desire, a deep longing for something or perhaps someone, who is just out of reach - that one thing you just can't have.

 

Several factors play a role in this. Maybe it is because the goal is too hard to reach or the person is taken, or may be this person does not reciprocate your feelings. So often despite all the stumbling blocks, we just want that something or someone so much more.

 

The question you then ask yourself is "WHY?".

Why is it that when you can't have something, you are willing to put all our energy and effort in, to go the extra mile just to get that something that is out of reach?

 

What comes to mind is "personal vanity" - As humans we all like to feel special and important. These are amongst the things that boosts our pride, self-image and confidence. Nobody wants to feel powerless or unable to affect people. The fact that you can't have or attain something is a blow to your personal vanity. This results in you chasing that thing more aggressively.

 

The human mind is fuelled with some sort of urge or deep desire when you become aware or told you are incapable of achieving something. We tend to overstep moral code or even hurt others when we are told we can't have something or someone.

 

Wanting what you can’t have, whether it’s a luxury lifestyle or a relationship or dream job, can be a thrilling experience. What you need to ask yourself is "what happens when it's attainable? Will you be satisfied?". May be or may be not, because the thrill will be over and you will move on to the next best thing OR you will cherish it and be pleased that you finally got what you once thought was unattainable. Always keep in mind that all things work out as it is destined to.

 

What is it that you wanted and didn’t get?
The affection of a person?
That dream job?
A promotion?
A luxurious lifestyle?
Better education?
Being able to experiment with alcohol as teenager but restricted by your parents?