The following might sound familiar?
Your heart is pounding, you're filled with soo much excitement and anticipation. If your phone beeps, you jump out of excitement to answer or read the text. You can’t focus on your work; your appetite for food is lost because the only thing on your mind is that person. The connection you feel with them is like an out of this world experience, almost as if you’ve known each other for a lifetime.
Can you relate to this..? Here's more:
Have you ever met a person that cause an explosion of emotions, questions, feelings, thoughts & attraction in you, that you find yourself thinking about them all the time.. The smallest actions leads you to over-analyze everything they say & do, doesn't matter how simple the act. You ponder over-and-over again about their intentions and how they possibly feel about you. Do they feel, think, miss, dream about you the same way, you do?
So what is this feeling?
At first it feels like a fresh rush & suddenly you feel alive and overwhelmed. You experience an extreme sense of happiness and it is a bliss just to know and see this person. But somewhere along the way you get carried away by the unreasoning passion or addiction to this person almost like an obsession. And if you carefully think about this, your heart might tell you its love, you are in love, you have found a partner to love, when you see this person you see love but in fact it is INFATUATION.
So what is infatuation?
It is an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something. Sexual attraction is normally the central attraction and it completely clouds a persons reasoning and judgement.
Your heart is pounding, you're filled with soo much excitement and anticipation. If your phone beeps, you jump out of excitement to answer or read the text. You can’t focus on your work; your appetite for food is lost because the only thing on your mind is that person. The connection you feel with them is like an out of this world experience, almost as if you’ve known each other for a lifetime.
Can you relate to this..? Here's more:
Have you ever met a person that cause an explosion of emotions, questions, feelings, thoughts & attraction in you, that you find yourself thinking about them all the time.. The smallest actions leads you to over-analyze everything they say & do, doesn't matter how simple the act. You ponder over-and-over again about their intentions and how they possibly feel about you. Do they feel, think, miss, dream about you the same way, you do?
So what is this feeling?
At first it feels like a fresh rush & suddenly you feel alive and overwhelmed. You experience an extreme sense of happiness and it is a bliss just to know and see this person. But somewhere along the way you get carried away by the unreasoning passion or addiction to this person almost like an obsession. And if you carefully think about this, your heart might tell you its love, you are in love, you have found a partner to love, when you see this person you see love but in fact it is INFATUATION.
So what is infatuation?
It is an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something. Sexual attraction is normally the central attraction and it completely clouds a persons reasoning and judgement.
| Infatuation focusses on the perfect. Love is understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength & grows beyond you. |  |
| Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I might lose my love." Love says, "Be patient. You belong together. Plan your future with confidence." Making decisions based on infatuation will bring heartache and pain - approach with caution. |  |
| When infatuated you are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement be sure that you are sober and don't confuse infatuation with love. |  |
Several articles exist on the internet about infatuation. You will find comparisons between infatuation and love all over, hence my decision not to elaborate too much on it in this post. Do yourself a favor and check it out, you'll be amazed how closely linked these two really are. Perhaps you are in a relationship or admiring someone from a far... Is it love or infatuation? Only YOU can answer!
How did I get to the title?
From all the titles I could have chosen, I decided on " imperfection of infatuation" because the more research and thinking I did about this topic, the more "flaws" I identified. Soo many people confuse this or are not fully aware that what they are feeling or going through is in fact infatuation and all the signs & feelings are soo real that they think it is love. Unrealistic expectations are set! When infatuated a feel good atmosphere should always be present and when things go wrong the parties involved easily pull away because it wasn't love - no real commitment was made, it was fun while it lasted. So as beautiful it might feel, it is not love. However, I do not deny the fact that in some cases infatuation can grown into real love, but again I will emphasize on knowing the difference and approaching with caution - someone might get hurt and that someone might be You.
To conclude:
Sorting out your feelings can be a real challenge, whether you are admiring someone or are in a relationship it is important to be fully aware of your true feelings.
Ask yourself whether your relationship be able to stand the test of time? Because love benefits and grows through time; infatuation ebbs & diminishes with time. Infatuation lacks confidence and is insecure. When the person is away, you wonder if she/he cheating. Infatuation might lead you to do things you`ll regret later, but love never will - LOVE CONQUERS ALL!
To answer the question I asked in the beginning, "YES, there something else that feels quite as beautiful as LOVE"
There's a big difference between falling in love and being in love. There's a big difference between infatuation and falling in love. Phil McGraw
“Yes, I was infatuated with you: I am still. No one has ever heightened such a keen capacity of physical sensation in me. I cut you out because I couldn't stand being a passing fancy. Before I give my body, I must give my thoughts, my mind, my dreams. And you weren't having any of those.” ― Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath
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